Sadness is the painful feeling that comes when you have lost or are about to lose something that is important to you. It is a cry out for what is lost and a wish to hold on to something that is important. A typical example is sadness or sorrow after losing someone you love, such as a family member, partner, or friend. But you can also be saddened by losing objects, access to places from where you have good memories, a job, opportunities, hopes or dreams.
Sadness can be felt in many ways, but it is quite common to feel a knot in your stumoch, a lump in your throat, warmth in your face or simply a heavyness in your body. Being sad can be very painful and overwhelming, but it can in a strange way feel quite good. That is why we sometimes seek out sad movies or dwell in our sadness. It is common to cry when you are sad, and crying can at times feel quite soothing and calming.
When you are sad and unable to regain what you have lost, your need is one of comfort, support, and care from others. Sometimes we have the need to pull back an be by ourselves. However, if you are always alone with your sadness there is a danger of the sadness turning into a more depressed state.
Sadness can also be a secondary emotion. Secondary sadness is quite common as a response to having been vialated and the primary feeling is anger. Secondary sadness often looks like undifferentiated distress, when your feeling pain but you don’t quite understand it or know what to do with. Sadness is also common as a problematic emotional memory, problematic emotional memory., such as sadness of having been mistreated, left to yourself or having lost someone or something of importance but not been given the opportunity to deal with it.